When a Father Loves His Son

Here’s a photo of a father’s touching letter to his gay teenage son Nate that was posted on the FCKH8.com Facebook page: five sentences that had me immediately in tears.

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overheard your phone conversation with Mike last night about your plans to come out to me. The only thing I need you to plan is to bring home OJ and bread after class. We are out, like you now. I’ve known you were gay since you were six, I’ve loved you since you were born.  – DAD

P.S. Your mom and I think you and Mike make a cute couple.

Awhile back I worked on a suicide hotline and some of the calls I got from gay teenagers broke my heart, over and over.  It made me realize that merely agreeing with gay rights issues in a “to each his own” philosophy was not enough, especially in a country where freedoms were ostensibly based on the pursuit of happiness; in a society where love was held up as the supreme good.

Listening to the stories of these teens, who had called a complete stranger at an 800 number because they didn’t think they could face life on this earth another day, was a shocking wake-up call for me.  These kids had been told by friends, family, society and the government that they couldn’t fall in love, couldn’t go out on a date, couldn’t go to the prom, couldn’t be in a relationship, couldn’t get married, couldn’t have kids, couldn’t have a family.  What the heck did they have to look forward to?

Sometimes they called because on top of all this, they’d been kicked out of their homes.  One teenager called from a bus station in the middle of winter in the mid-West.  He’d told his parents he was gay and they didn’t even give him time to pack.  “Forty percent of all homeless youth in this country identify as GLBT…” says Cyndi Lauper, co-founder of the True Colors Fund.  I read that statistic and wasn’t at all surprised.

How can we refuse the right to pursue happiness to homosexuals in this ‘land of the free’?  Why does the issue of their right to marry have to be judged by the Supreme Court, and the outcome is not even assured, and state laws may be able to knock it down anyway?

How can we call ourselves the ‘leaders of the free world’?  Way ahead of this country are the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland and Argentina.  The Queen of England just endorsed an anti-discrimination Commonwealth Charter that supports gay rights:  “We are implacably opposed to all forms of discrimination, whether rooted in gender, race, color, creed, political belief or other grounds.”  A diplomatic source stated: “The impact of this statement on gay and women’s rights should not be underestimated. Nothing this progressive has ever been approved by the United Nations. And it is most unusual for the Queen to request to sign documents in public, never mind call the cameras in.

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